Live by the sword and die by the sword? Or put that sword down before it bursts into flames, burns down all bridges and puts everyones proverbial eye out!?
Keep in mind that Uranus, Mars, and Eris are all in Aries while Jupiter in Leo and Saturn in Sagittarius just turn up the heat.
Why do I share this?
Just a reminder that many may take out their frustrations and anxieties on you. Remember that this is their own albatross to bear, you are not responsible for people that are committed to misunderstanding you.—You know, the ones that continue to see you a specific way regardless of what you say or do! Nor do they consider any efforts towards your development.
How To Proceed?
Leave others alone to reflect in solitude or connect with other people in your soul family that you relate with. Sometimes the discord comes from within your family of origin (FOO) and you may become a target for the type of “offloading” that is not meant to bring you down but merely an expression of the deepest kind of frustration and pain. This is not malice, it is merely pain and grief in disguise. While you don’t have to ever tolerate any acts of emotional arrested development, it is important that you find the proper context for it so that you don’t take it on and internalize it.
Made This Way?
This in essence is one of the strengths of ARIES. It is the part of our journey that reminds us each of how strong we are in distinct and unique ways, not necessarily in the ways our world tries to socialize us to be. One look at pop culture should be enough to make you consider whether or not we should accept much of the social conditioning templates of our western thinking.
Anger: Implode or Explode?
Focus on your authentic self and don’t be thrown off your path by those who may be belligerent in their interactions with you. Usually you are doing nothing more or less than watching hostile people wrestle with their own demons. To them its an implosion. To you its a grenade like explosion.
Monkeying Around With My Mind?
Like Monkeys on our backs, our personal demons try to create chaos in our consciousness by using “the monkey mind.” You know, that endless chattering about what “could go wrong,” even though it hasn’t necessarily happened.
Well Guess What?
On one level anxiety and fear can be channeled into a great skill to help manage and minimize risks, but when a person uses that mode of thinking all of the time, they may be inflicting their anxiety onto others. Sometimes these seemingly unconscious “grievers” use nothing but their own fear or failures from the past as justification for the demands and needs that they attempt to place at your feet.
If you reward the behavior, perhaps you may be giving in to a form of emotional extortion? You will have to check in with both the mind and the heart on that thought.
The Season That Tests Your Reasons?
In any case, Aries season is a great season to work on conflict negotiation and diplomacy skills. Considering the fact that Mars and Aries are the care takers of the house of self (house one), its natural complement is the seventh house associated with the harmonizing and negotiating diplomacy skills of Libra and its ruler Venus. So we have to reach for a middle ground. A middle ground no one can reach if all those damn bridges have been burned down. Let’s set our intentions to say what we mean in a direct and authentic way but with enough finesse that we are well received.
Are You Hearing or Listening?
Well received in this context means that the other side actually hears what you are sharing in the proper context not just the sound stimuli that you are inflicting upon them in a moment of righteous indignation. This approach, in theory is that which separates the real conflict negotiators from those that simply want to take out their hostilities on the closest human punching bag they can find. It can be emotional, intellectual and extreme cases, physical. So this the season to brush up on communication skills. (See embedded post from last year at the bottom of this article.) In short, hearing is about the physical passive act of receiving sound waves while listening is about actively paying attention and authentically decode the meaning and context that the other side is trying to deliver.
Marshall Rosenberg and “Non-Violent Communication” is a great place to start. Aries energy tends to make us all provocative and careless in expressing our opinions. We will be fierce as a response to those being nasty knowing there are other options but feeling like they will not receive the language of peace so “off with their head.”
So in order to get through this high energy Aries heat, remember that the eye for an eye and tooth for a tooth approach will leave us all blind and toothless. Do yourself a favor and try to separate those that are venting from those that are actually actively trying to reach a resolution.
Relax, as we fly through the last part of the luxurious moon in Taurus, expect things to get shaken up this week when the moon visits Gemini just before it slips into the “sniper season” that is Cancer. Since Venus is now in Taurus, she is harmonizing with her higher octave healing team Neptune and Chiron.
You have all the tools you need to succeed. I merely remind you to use the them to stay in control of your own happiness.
Tips on Non-Violent Communication:
(1) Spend some time each day quietly reflecting on how we would like to relate to ourselves and others.
(2) Remember that all human beings have the same needs.
(3) Check our intention to see if we are as interested in others getting their needs met as our own.
(4) When asking someone to do something, check first to see if we are making a request or a demand.
(5) Instead of saying what we DON’T want someone to do, say what we DO want the person to do.
(6) Instead of saying what we want someone to BE, say what action we’d like the person to take that we hope will help the person be that way.
(7) Before agreeing or disagreeing with anyone’s opinions, try to tune in to what the person is feeling and needing.
(8) Instead of saying “No,” say what need of ours prevents us from saying “Yes.”
(9) If we are feeling upset, think about what need of ours is not being met, and what we could do to meet it, instead of thinking about what’s wrong with others or ourselves.
(10) Instead of praising someone who did something we like, express our gratitude by telling the person what need of ours that action met.
Now that we have passed the first 48 hours of The New Moon/Solar Eclipse at the critical degree, its time to set the intentions that will bring us to the New moon in Virgo September 2015.